Enjoying promotion as ‘grand-papa’

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  • The role that you  play in your grandchild’s life offers him or her something that no one else could replace, and now, scientific research points to the proof that grandparent-grandchild relationships benefits both parties involved — in more ways than one.

  • A study conducted by the University of Oxford found that growing up with grandparents’ helps children to become better able to cope with adverse childhood experiences and trauma.

By Nazarul Islam

You only realize this late in life, after the moment arrives. There is no greater love in life, than the affection shared with grandchildren—if you are fortunate enough! Grandpas bring a little wisdom, happiness, warmth, and love to every life they touch.

Grandchildren, from the time they are born—take a special seat in our hearts. Something, so special that couldn’t possibly be filled by anyone else. I too, have taken pride in being a good grandparent, as anyone should. My relationship with each grandchild is of utmost value. And whether, other grandparents realize it or not, this unique bond is so much more than just free babysitting.

The role that you  play in your grandchild’s life offers him or her something that no one else could replace, and now, scientific research points to the proof that grandparent-grandchild relationships benefits both parties involved — in more ways than one.

I have read a study conducted by the University of Oxford found that growing up with grandparents’ helps children to become better able to cope with adverse childhood experiences and trauma. The research included over 1,500 children and has suggested that grandparental involvement in a child’s life contributes to the child’s wellbeing, leading to less behavior and emotional problems.

The subject children, all appeared to the researchers to have a more secure and developed sense of self which allowed them to deal with adverse life events in a healthier way. Interestingly, this same study analyzed the difference between grandmother’s involvements in the child’s life versus grandfather involvement.

As it has turned out, grandmother involvement was more associated with nurturing, while grandfather involvement was more associated with mentoring and activities.

And that’s not all: Other research has suggested that close ties between grandparents and their grandchildren also lowers the risk of the child becoming depressed. Another study published in the journal ‘The Gerontologist’ found that the closer the kinship between grandparent and grandchild, the less likely a child was to exhibit depressive symptoms.

And what’s more, the same went the other way around: Grandparents with close relationships to their grandchildren were also less likely to show signs of depression. That’s right – your little one is making you happier and healthier, too! Another study even suggests that grandparents who babysit their grandchildren have a life expectancy that is an average of five years longer.

Grandparent-grandchild love is the ultimate fountain of youth!

There you have it, being an involved grandmother benefits the health and wellbeing of your grandchild, helping them to feel a deeper sense of self, to feel safe, and to feel nurtured. And not only that, but your own mood and health is similarly benefited by having your grandbaby around.

Grandfathers mean so very much to their grandchildren. They are a role model, a best friend and they make you feel safe. Grandfathers will do anything to make the world a better place for their grandchildren.

When Azaan (3) and Zoya(1)are with me, grandpa, I feel I am someone special with whom you can confide in and trust with all of their innocent being. Again, when I visit Aryz (6) Hana (4) and Arhaan (2) in Aurora-IL, the loving children want to make everything better for me—perhaps because they do not want to see you signs of struggle in the lives of their old visitors.

My little grandchildren, I must share this with all of you: Grandfathers are always in your corner — always there to cheer you on. They are always proud of you no matter what, and they will never stop loving you — even if they don’t agree with your choices.

Grandpas are ones that will take you places, share the history and want to teach you. They want to expose you to the great wonders of the world. Grandpas are chock full of knowledge, that they so desperately want to share with their grandchildren.

Finally, to be able to watch your children’s children grow up is truly a blessing from above. More and more, when I single out the person out who inspired me most, I go back to my grandfather.

We Grandpas have ears that truly listen, arms that always hold, love that’s never-ending, and a heart that’s made of gold.

I wish all happiness to (the present day) grandparents in life ahead. They will soak up every bit of love out of the precious time they have with each grandchild — and make sure to load that time, with extra nurturing and hugs.

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The Bengal-born writer is a senior educationist and settled in USA. He writes regularly for Sindh Courier, and the newspapers of Bangladesh, India and America.  

 

1 thought on “Enjoying promotion as ‘grand-papa’

  1. The warmth of the smile

    The growing phase of any form is beautiful an experience to watch. The little fingers have the tenderness to make the heart melt. The eyes look at you as if they have never seen the beautiful world. They see with their hearts to get imbued into a world seeing your eyes. Without saying a word, they touch you deeply. The thought of them ricocheting with their glance are soothing that the words fail to meet the thoughts. The subtle smile rain around the ambience to make you get drenched in the serene love of the first glance.

    The creation has been never beautiful if we have not seen the dust starting to breathe. The morning drops find her love in the leaves to become them. They wait for the day to be born again to become one to fall in him. The mist the world around to make the flowers to blush. They bloom from bud as kissed by the misted drop. Being born from nature’s tears are never the same with her sweat. She gives each an equivalence to be unique to survive in a world filled with diversity. A new one born is never born new, she is born from the existing to make others smile. From the womb to the light she makes her tears touch the dust and with the warmth of her mother to smile forever. The creation is always a beautiful one, asking us to shower our bliss. A new one created again need more smile to fill the lacuna left by the former. The vicious circle of addendum and surplusage drive the journey of flowing with the wind to create marvels each time as the dust is sprouted.

    A beautiful oeuvre showering the love of the soul just born. To see them smiling is being in delight, never to have the words being worded. Driving in the consciousness to the subconscious efron to fly incessantly, we get flown by her smile. Many times you smile at her seeing her smile, leaving the traces for years within, to be touched when solitude knocks the door. The tears and the smile stay together thinking of the memories rekindled.

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