[Sindh Mental Health Authority (SMHA) in collaboration with Thar Foundation, Dow Medical University Karachi. Jinnah Postgraduate Medical Center (JPMC) Karachi, Sindh University and Liaquat University of Medical & Health Sciences Jamshoro and Sir Cowasji Institute of Psychiatry Hyderabad, had carried out Psychological Autopsy of suicide patients in Thar in 2021, the first ever in Pakistan to ascertain the causes of suicide cases. During this study, several real life stories were documented. Dr. Manisha, the first female psychiatrist from Thar Region, hailing from Mithi and working at JPMC, who was part of the Psychological Autopsy Team, shares one of such stories, based on evidences/statements documented during the study. Such stories still haunts her].
Please listen to your loved ones
Don’t ignore them when they are anxious or worried.
Your active listening can save lives of your loved ones.
It was a usual morning.
She woke up and made breakfast for everyone at her in-laws’ home.
It was the time of Covid-19, everybody was worried and anxious about the virus, so was she. Transport system of entire country was shut down temporarily to stop the viral spread.
She was a very anxious person, who worries a lot about small things. Her heart beat always got fast and she usually cried over small things. She had tried to control her emotions but unable to do so. She was over thinker too, and always thought something bad is going to happen. The news of spread of virus had increased her nature of worrying thrice the time she was before.
This was a 20-year-old newly married girl.
She was worried since morning because of her husband, as he was supposed to reach home at around 2pm. But it was 3pm and he was not yet back. She went to her mother-in-law to tell her, but she just shouted at her, and said ‘stop worrying and please don’t assume the worst scenarios’.
She came back to her room to calm down herself.
It was 3:30 pm, but he was not yet home.
She becomes too much worried.
She went to her mom’s house to share her feelings but nobody listened to and ignored her concerns because of her nature of worrying excessively.
But her racing thoughts were telling her ‘he is no more’.
She was unable to contact him, as the telephone network was not working.
It was 4pm, and he was not at home with them.
Her heart was saying ‘something bad has happened, why he is late? Where is he?’
It was 4:30 pm, and she thought he is gone.
She felt suffocated.
‘How can I live without him, he was my life,’ she thought.
‘I can’t live without him…’
‘I am going to kill myself’.
The final depressive thoughts.
And at 5 pm… She hanged herself.
5:30 pm her husband arrived home.
Courtesy: Senator Dr. Karim Khawaja, Chairman, SMHA